My daughter and I went to the mountains today to visit with my parents (her grandparents) and family. We both love it there , its so peaceful and relaxing. Its beautiful this time of year with all the fall leaves changing and falling. Today was not completely peaceful or relaxing thou. Behind my parents house sits an old camper that my niece and daughter have turned into a play place. For the past 3 weeks they have been spending hours playing in that old camper but today my daughter did NOT want to play inside it. Of course my niece wanted to because she thinks its the coolest place ever!! So she was upset and disappointed when her cousin told her she didn't want to play inside the camper today. I can't make my daughter go play there .. I tried but she's just as stubborn as I am and flat out refused. I kept trying to make suggestions and get them to compromise and play something else but both girls were being stubborn and unwilling to compromise. The whole time we were visiting they wouldn't play together. It was giving me a headache. so naturally I finally said " we are going home" and that was the end of it. I really was not ready to leave but a person can only take so much of bickering kids. Right?
On the way home we listened to music , taking turns like we always do... She gets to listen to two songs and I get to listen to two. Although she will listen to commercials if she doesnt' find a song and fifteen minutes later still declare it to be her turn because no song that she "Liked" has played yet. Yes it drives me insane. We were almost home and she starts about the camper. " I dont' know why she wants to play in that dumb camper all the time . Its boring! its cold! " I tried telling her that maybe she could have gone in for just a bit. But omg that was like telling her she had to get a tooth pulled. Just not happening.
Later in the evening after bath time , I went in to her room to make her bed. I found her diary on her bed and peeked in it. yes I know bad mom but she's only 9 what could she be writing about. Most of it I couldnt' read her hand writing so couldn't tell you what that was about . But I did find one page that was neatly written that said " My lif is wrong" (yes she forgot the e in life) I was so sad by that short little line. At first I thought this had been written by her older sister. The writing was too neat and I didnt' think my daughter knew how to spell 'wrong' . So I asked her " How do you spell the word wrong?" and she was quick to respond " W-R-O-N-G" and then even quicker to ask me why I wanted to know. Right away she came into her room and saw the diary on her bed and asked me if I had read it . I'm not good at lying to her so I admitted I had and asked her about that one statement " my lif is wrong" . Then I learned why she feels her life is wrong. First came the camper experience ....' you shouldn't make me play in the camper I don't like it in there' Next was school....she began crying and telling me how she doesn't like her school Or have many friends. explaining to me how she used to get picked on but doesnt' now but she doesn't get picked for things in gym class til last or close to it. All I could think of was to tell her Awesome and great her dad and I think she is and how much we love her. I told her those kids that didnt' pick her for things didnt' know how great she is and they were missing out . I think its terrible that kids should have to feel bad about going to school and how other children act toward them. When I hear about this type of thing, it always makes me wonder what their parents are teaching them. I've always told my daughter to be nice and kind to others. Share toys. Its never right to pick on someone else. All the things I was taught growing up. My daughter and I laid in her bed talking for almost an hour. Talking about TV shows and cartoons that we both liked. I was telling her about shows that i watched when I was a kid that are still on now. She was so excited to learn about the things I liked as a child. When I mentioned something that she liked too she would get excited and say "me too!!!" . Oh and my favorite thing she said to me was " This is so fascinating! You are just like me mom and I'll like you!" I know I've been just rambling on and on but on last point I want to make. I am glad I found that diary entry because we had such an amazing talk afterwards and made me realize we don't have enough of those talks. I want her to feel like she can tell me more and not always have to write in her diary. My daughter is the most amazing beautiful little girl I know and I'm so grateful to have her in my life!!!
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